Friends in a Distant Land

European friends and fun adventures

There are definitely all kinds of friends.  There are the instant friends- where you connect right away and just get along.  There are the dosage friends- where you are friends but you can only take so much of each other.  There are the friends that you have been friends with forever- not sure what first caused you to be friends- but you know that you are in it for the long haul.  There are the friends that you don’t have to talk to all the time but when you do, you know that it will go right back to the way it was- the way it has always been between the two of you- Easy and relaxed.  There are the friends that were only in your life for a short period of time, but that they taught you something during that time and then you both moved on. 

I have learned a lot about friendship over the past two years- good and bad.  I actually would have said, before moving here, that I knew a lot about friendship.  I pride myself on being a really good friend- one that I would want to have in my life.  I also thought that I had gotten past the stage in my life when I would still have drama with my friends.  But I have learned that lessons come in the form of people throughout your life J

While being here there have definitely been some highs and some lows, and some good times and some bad.  But I have realized that everyone here has contributed to making this experience an once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and for that I am grateful.

As any real friendship will do, I have also learned a lot about me.  I usually proceed into things with caution.  In college, I actually didn’t say a single word to the swim team for six months because I wanted to “feel things out.”  I was fine with that and only made one friend, Anne Warner, and sat back and took everyone else in.  I really did NOT talk or interact at all. The entire swim team was shocked when I opened my mouth and actually said something funny and my swim coach was relieved because he had already informed the seniors that he had suspicions that I was suicidal.  Hard to believe someone would think this, if you know me.  Easy to see if you saw how withdrawn I was those first months in a new setting.

Coming here was different.  I have always said that I can be really outgoing and social if I have one person that I am comfortable with.  I guess I use them as my safety net.  Anne Warner was my swim team safety net.  She allowed me to have someone to be friends with and be comfortable while figuring out everyone else before I made my move.  Here my safety net came with the move because it was the reason that I moved here… It was obviously in the form of my sister, Gretchen.  So I bypassed the six months of silence and just jumped right in.  Ready to have a good time and make some new friends.

There was good and bad that came from this.  One of the good things is that it took me out of my comfort zone.  One of the bad things is that it took me out of my comfort zone. 

I became friends with people and the friendships here are more like an extended family.  You let people in and you let people in to your life that you usually don’t. I think you instantly think that people get you and you instantly want to get them.  But you soon realize that nothing can substitute time and really getting to know someone.  This place also throws a crazy curveball because it is a different setting unlike any other and I think it brings out different sides of people.  

So what has happened is that I have had some of the best times of my life and some not so great times.  I have laughed really loud and truthfully cried more as an adult than I thought possible.  I have lost some friends along the way and that does sadden me.  But I realized that I do truly believe that some people only come into your life for short periods of time and give you gifts or lessons and then go their separate ways.  I do think it is important though to focus on the good times and not the bad (even though it is much easier to dwell on the negative).

I wanted to make a video of all the good times that I have had here with friends.  This video really is for me (but I think a few of you might enjoy it too).  I want to be able to watch it and be appreciative of the great people and good times that Baumholder has allowed me to meet and the people that I got to enjoy this crazy journey with.  Everyone in this video has been a big part of my Baumholder days and for that I am very appreciative for each and every one of them.  

(Link to the video is on top of this post)

All the Pretty Things

The orginal purpose of this blog site was to focus on travel and adventures. My goal was to document my time in Europe for myself and those of you that would like to live vicarously through me. I have seriously failed documenting all of my travels and for that I apologize. But I am going to try to make it up somewhat by blogging about one of my favorite places: Florence, Italy.



I just went on my third trip to Florence this weekend. Somehow I always find myself in Firenze in May with two other women. All three times this has been the situation and three times have been amazing.

 Trip 1- Emily J, Mama "Oh hell" J, and me May 2011

Now I might love Florence so much because my first experience was so grand. I went last May with Emily J and her mother. And we had an amazing time. We did a little shopping (not the amount that I have done in other visits) but had a great taste of the city. We laughed, we ate, we drank, we conversed about life, and we say many great views (many of them we had to climb to). I left wanting more of the city.

Trip 2- Gretch, Kelly, and I May 2011

So three weeks later, I went back with my sister and Kelly. Maybe I love Florence because this trip was also one of the best that I have taken. I still think about that trip and smile. This trip did more damage to all of our pocketbooks though because we pretty much just drank wine and shopped... and found out the dangers of combining these two activities. Italian wine makes everything better and it makes every purchase seem necessary.

Trip 3- Dana, Alexis, and me May 2012

After that trip, I needed a year for my bank account to recover. When the opportunity presented for Dana and I to go there and meet up with Alexis, I booked the ticket 30 minutes after I found out that it was an option.



Some of my fellow European travelers love to go to as many places as possible. And I understand this... each place has a different feel and something different to offer. And plus you do get a little sense of pride when you can talk about all the different places that you have traveled. I, on the other hand, love to revisit the places that I love. Florence, small town Ireland, Sardinia, Scotland, and Austria are places that I would go back every weekend if had the chance. So call me boring but I have a little case of monogamy when it comes to traveling...  I guess not really monogamy but I definitely have a few favorites.

There are so many great things about Florence.  The San Lorenzo Market is full of gorgeous leather products and amazingly colorful fruit, veggies, olive oil, cheese, meat, and wine.  So each trip started with venturing through the market.

Florence is also the kind of city you want to get lost in because the architect and sculptures are really something that I have never seen anywhere else.  They are just downright mind boggling.  And these were all done in a time when computers were not utilized.

And then there is the food and wine.  Dining out is really an art form in Italy.  The Italians definitely know how to make a party in your mouth and each dining experience is unique and very enjoyable.

Florence really is a city for the senses:
1. Delicious food that is an artform to eat
2. Beautiful amazing architect and art to see
3. Gorgeous leather to feel
4. The romantic Italian language to listen to
5. And the smell of lots of money leaving your wallet

Each trip allowed me to enjoy a different part of the city.  My first trip with the Jorgensen women really let me enjoy the art of the city.  We went to the Accademia and saw David and went to the Uffizi and looked at copious amounts of Renaissance pictures.  There are many things that I have seen in Europe and not been that impressed, but when I saw David it was more amazing than anything I could ever imagine.  It is large, detailed, and done in marble- little room for error.  Wow!  This trip also included enjoying the beauty of the city.  We climbed the 400+ stairs of the Duomo tower to see the city.  Angie got a glimpse of European towers because they are very confined and small.  She would turn the corner and see all the stairs leading up and the smaller and smaller space allowed and say "oh hell" over and over again.  We also went up to the Piazza Michaelangelo to watch the sun go down.  We learned there that many teenage American exchange students live in Florence.  

My second trip really was laid back fun.  The three of us really came, saw, drank wine, and shopped.  It ended with us having a "homeless moment" on a park bench for two hours drinking out of a bottle of Prosecco because we didn't have money to spend on lunch.  I would say that was a successful Florence trip.

This trip was just so much fun with Dana and Alexis.  We definitely bought a lot.  I went thinking I already owned everything from Florence that I needed and wanted.  I proved myself wrong and went shopping crazy.  I guess I can chalk it up to buying myself some grown up necessities.  We also got an inside scoop on the city because Alexis is studying there for two weeks so she had some cool things to share about the city.

So now I will admit to my purchases.. and here comes the time in my blog when you are allowed to judge. Because I left Florence with many souvenirs and all beautiful things that I can't believe I lived without for so long!!! Beautiful red leather bags, leather boots, a leather jacket, scarves and jewelry.... and some great life-long memories! I left with a happy heart and an empty pocketbook.  Til next time Firenze... Arrividerci!!!

Seester, seester!

So it is crazy how much your life can change when the person that you are closest to leaves you… TWICE!

Gretch, is NOT the person that I am most like in the world. Gretch, is NOT the first person to reassure me that I am doing everything right. Gretch, is NOT the person that really gets me fully... which is evident by the fact that I usually have to explain my thoughts and actions to my sister in length. And even after pouring out all my mental activity, she is still usually going to say, "Sorry, I don't see it that way." But she is the best sister that I could ask for and there is no denying that when she leaves me behind I miss her dearly and greatly.

So my sisterhood with Gretch is probably not the typical sister story. We were not close growing up. A matter of fact, she hated me. Which is hard to believe, because I am very lovable… always have been. And surprisingly, I was even more delightful at a younger age. I pretty much peaked at life DURING the time our only interactions included her rolling her eyes and walking away wearing her FUBU clothes. For a few years of my life, I think she was the only person that hated me (this is either because she was, indeed, the only person in the entire world that didn’t really like me or I was a bit delusional about how much everyone else thought I was amazing). So since I figured she was just a bad judge of character, I ignored her and let her do her own thing. Besides I was so caught up in my awesome teenage life and tons of friends to really notice.

But then sometime between high school for her and post college for me, we started to become close. She warmed up to the idea that I might have something to offer. And through the years, we have continued to become closer and share a lot of experiences and emotions most adult sisters don’t get to. In my later years, there are times that she is one of the only people that I know really loves me. And she even loves the emotional, overly self-reflective, stubbornly independent me that not everyone gets to experience. But it is an odd challenging love. I think this is mainly because we are nothing alike. People that know us say all the time, "You two are soooo different." One of our friends from Germany pretty much summed it up when he said to me, "When I first met Gretchen, I was instantly surrounded by butterflies and unicorns and monkeys and babies and all that is happy in the world. But oddly, I did not experience any of those warm and happy feelings when I first met you." To which I replied, "Nor should you get any of those feelings from me." It turns out, rarely will anyone get the same feelings or thoughts or responses from the two of us, because we really have very little in common. And this is a fact, we both readily admit.

So when Gretch moved away in January 2009 to start her European adventure, I was happy for her. But it was weird because I soon became sad for me. I missed her dearly and started to realize a sad part of life is that you do tend to take for granted those that are around you, those that you do love the most, and those that make you happiest. I was going through a really tough time professionally and personally which was slowly breaking me down. I usually can take a lot, but it had all started to add up. When I started to try to figure out what was wrong, it was not that life had become too much but that my support system had disappeared. I had lost my “guardian angel” and I missed her. I tried to do the reasonable thing and just call her more and talk to her more. But it is a SEVEN HOUR time difference between the Land of 10,000 Lakes and Germany, so it was impossible to talk to her regularly.

I think that there was no denying that it affected me the night that I was hanging out with my mom and dad and at 2 am, Papa Kirschling said, “Hey, let’s call Gretch and Josh because it is 9 am their time and they should be getting up right about now.” Awseome idea!! So after talking to her for the first time in three weeks (even though I had tried to call her countless times during that time), I went back to hanging out with my mom and dad and out of nowhere started to cry…. Uncontrollably. The conversation that ensued went something like this: Mom: “You miss your sister, don’t you?” Me: “Yes, (blah, blah, sniffle, snort, sniffle) A LOT” Dad: “Well, who would have thought it? When you two were separated I knew it was going to be hard and a growing experience for the two of you, but I thought it would be hard on Gretch and you would be fine. I thought you were the tough independent one. But she seems to be just fine and look at you. You can’t even form a coherent sentence. Huh… I really didn’t expect this.”

This moment of Ronnie Kirschling wisdom/brutal honesty brought such clarity to me. I did need to get a hold of myself and buck up. I either had to move to Germany OR spend the next two years of my life crying uncontrollably at odd times of the day while being judged unfavorably by my own father. I decided to choose option A because it seemed better for all involved.

So I did what anybody would do, I uprooted my life and followed her like the sister groupie that I am. I figured if Gretch was planning on going on a World Tour, I was going to follow her.

It is funny because Gretch does challenge me more than anyone else… .and I love that about her (and get incredibly frustrated with her about it). Isn’t it funny how the quality you love the most about someone, else can bother and get under your skin more than anything else?

It is amusing because I used to think that if I just was around her more, she would become more like ME. She would pick up my humor, my generosity, my attitude about life, my desire to always put others first, my love for spontaneous fun, my mindset about everything. This did not happen. She didn’t become me… and I didn’t become her. So after growing up with her my whole life, living as adults with her for six years in Minnesota, and now moving to Germany to be close to her for 2.5 years.. I finally give up. We are NEVER going to be the same person but I realized that we were meant to challenge each other into being our own individual selfs. And most importantly, we have now had the unique experience of seeing and experiencing the world through each others’ eyes. We are not anymore alike than before but I know I am a better person overall because of Gretch.

I think a quote that can sum up Gretchen’s instrumental role in my life is: “God doesn’t give you the people you want, he gives you the people you need. To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you the person you were meant to be.”

What I have come to realize is that I needed Gretch these last two years and now I need to learn to get what I want for myself. I need to really tackle this world all by myself. And I learned that because Gretchen taught me that.

So I do think that I am doing much better this time around. The hardest thing is knowing that Gretch will be a mother soon and I won’t be around all the time to watch her take on that adventure/challenge. However, I know she will be an amazing mother. She has a heart that can love anyone and concern for loved ones that will protect any child from any physical or emotional dangers that the world can present. She also has an amazing parental team with Josh. I think that I have come to terms with the fact that this chapter of our lives will be done from afar. But I am so thankful for all the chapters that we have had the opportunity to write as sisters and the life long memories that we have made during the journey. I am so thankful that two totally different people with similar genetic makeup have been able to grow close and share all that we have and I look forward to the new adventures on the horizon. Gretch, I love you tons and in the words of Barbara K “Thank YOU for being YOU!”

Mama Meaghan For a Week

Life has a funny way of helping you out when you need a little distraction.

So there have been a lot of goodbyes lately. People are leaving this soon-to-be-ghost-town at a pretty fast pace. Just about as soon as you have gotten used to them coming back from deployment, they are right back out the door. I guess that is Army life. I have come to accept it-- for the most part.

Honestly, the only really hard part is that everyone that leaves here is excited to leave. No matter if they liked Germany or not, by the time it is their turn to say Tschus, they are ready to throw up deuces and move on. At first, I took this a little personal. I know change has to come and people have to come in and out of your life but I would like to think it is hard to leave me… at least a little bit. But people definitely do NOT leave his place kicking and screaming. They usually leave smiling and shaking their heads about what their life here has been like.


Anyways, I knew this dreaded time of end of March/beginning of April was coming.. Gretch and Josh were leaving and so was my good friend Roy. I was not sure how I was going to deal with it because I tried to focus on the positives and embrace the change but I also realized that life as I knew it in Germany was going to be way different.

I am not going to lie…. I am a very sensitive and slightly emotional person. Not everyone gets to see this side of me. Those that know me well know that wben I am happy, I am happy. But when I am sad, it is a full-blown production! We are not talking a type of dark depression or anything of that nature, we are just talking about a lot of feeling, tears, and self-reflection. I like to go through the emotion and move on. And maybe listen to sad music in the process.


So about a week before Josh and Gretch left, it hit me. And I think poor Josh got the brunt of it because he was stuck with two very sad and emotional girls. But I have to admit that he is the most amazing brother-in-law because he dealt with it as if he was very in tune to female emotions. I chalk this up to Gretchen molding him into a good husband and him growing up with two sisters (and maybe to the fact that he is just a completely legit human being- fairly close to self-actualization).

Since I started the build up about a week before they left, I got very nervous about how I was going to be when they actually did leave… this is where the unexpected life distraction came in.

The day before they left, I got a phone call from a couple that I am close to here that they needed someone to watch their three children because of an emergency. And I needed to start tomorrow (the day that Gretch and Josh left the country). I truly believe that one of the things about life is that we are suppose to help each other out and I like to fault on the side of good karma so I didn’t hesitate to take the three kids. Plus I secretly love hanging out with children and these three are pretty awesome.



So being thrown into motherhood, really made me realize a few things and I figured I would stop my long blog absence and reflect.

1. It is impossible to have three kids completely content with life at the same time. Impossible. If two are happy, one is sad. IF you get the one that is sad, happy, then it is usually at the expense of another one and then they are sad.

2. I love sport analogies. I feel that they really do a good job of summing up some of life’s little lessons. I heard one once while watching Wimbledon. The announcer, probably John McEnroe, said “the best time to break is right after you have been broken.” It has stuck with me because I feel like this is true in life too. The best triumphs in life usually come right after the worst heartaches. What I learned with kids is the best laughter, smiles, and unexpected joys usually come right after you think you can’t take anymore.

3. Who knew you had to plan for an additional hour and fifteen minutes in the morning to get three kids ready? And most of that time is just to allow for meltdowns because they are going to happen in the morning and they are going to be amazing meltdowns of catastrophic proportion.

4. People always ask me how I went to school full time and worked nights full time and got all my degrees. I now know how I did it… I didn’t have kids!!! Kids are unpredictable and you really can’t ever put yourself first. Right when you think you can and you can have some “me time”, one gets sick or encounters a life problem that is more dramatic than As the World Turns.

5. Sometimes kids want you to yell at them. This boggles my mind. Any attention is good attention and sometimes they have breakdowns and put on childhood productions just for the hug afterwards. This is incredibly frustrating for someone who hates conflict but really endearing for someone who also loves a good hug and cuddle session.



6. You have to say no. … all the time. You feel mean and cruel and super uncool but you have to. And kids will push the limits.

7. It is really hard for three kids to conceive why an adult of my age would not have a husband. And the only question they can think to ask that might have the answer to this question is “What is wrong with you Miss Meaghan that nobody would want to marry you?” Just for the record- we spent about three different evenings exploring this question and came to no conclusions.

8. They don’t even realize how cool they are. Alexa, is the 11 year old and the oldest, she was my sanity in the morning and we had fun morning times. We would get ready in the bathroom together and she would play her music. One of the songs on her ipod, I really liked. The first time she played it I said, “this is my jam. I love it.” After that, she would always play that song first and then smile at me. I loved that and it was the high point of my morning (and she probably didn't even think twice about it)

9. Kids are really simple but also incredibly complex at times. One of my favorite little moments was on Sunday. We had been watching movies all day so I told the kids we had to go on a walk and we ended up walking around Albessen for about an hour looking at the horses, llamas, chickens, and running the dogs on the nearby path. It was a pretty basic walk but as David, the six year old, was holding my hand he said something so simple but cute, “Miss Meaghan, this is just so much fun.”

10. The 6 year old also said another awesome thing. He was at my work because he was sick and I needed to work. He all of a sudden announced, “Miss Meaghan, I have to go poopy.” To which I said, “Do you need help with that?” (because this untrained quasi mom did not know if this was a task he was able to accomplish alone. And he said, “NO!! Pooping is easy!”

I know the people that do this parenthood thing on a daily basis probably have a lot more insight than I do, but I thought I would share some of the lessons and fun stories that I accumulated throughout the week.

I really did enjoy my time with the kids and will miss the chaotic awesomeness they brought to my life. But am thankful that they took my mind off of other things right when I needed it most.

Choosing What Matters

As a reflective person, I tend to ponder things and one of life's little mysteries is what does matter in life. This is obviously a rhetorical question about life, but I think what really does matter is how you treat people.... especially those that you love. I like to read and used to read a fair amount before coming here. A passage that really resonated with me was from "The Secret Life of Bees" by Sue Monk Kidd.



“There’s one thing I don’t get,” I said.

“What’s that?”

“How come if your favorite color is blue, you painted your house so pink?”

She laughed. “That was May’s doing. She was with me the day I went to the paint store to pick out the color. I had a nice tan color in mind, but May latched on to this sample called Caribbean Pink. She said it made her feel like dancing a Spanish flamenco. I thought, ‘Well, this is the tackiest color I’ve ever seen, and we’ll have half the town talking about us, but if it can lift May’s heart like that, I guess she ought to live inside it.’”

“All this time I just figured you liked pink,” I said.

She laughed again. “You know, some things don’t matter that much, Lily. Like the color of a house. How big is that in the overall scheme of life? But lifting a person’s heart — now, that matters. The whole problem with people is –”

“They don’t know what matters and what doesn’t,” I said, filling in her sentence and feeling proud of myself for doing so.

“I was gonna say, The problem is they know what matters, but they don’t choose it. You know how hard that is, Lily? I love May, but it was still so hard to choose Caribbean Pink. The hardest thing on earth is choosing what matters.”

So the question that arises for me is how hard is it to really make other people happy? Is it really that hard to think of other people when making decisions? Not that you have to do things solely for other people and not let your needs be known, but I feel that most people think that life is about making sure that their needs are met first and foremost.

And the majority of people that would decide that it was okay to paint their house Caribbean Pink for someone else would make sure that was never forgotten. August decided to paint her house for her sister... but I can guarantee that five years from now if they got into a fight she wouldn't say "Well, you are ungrateful because I painted by house Caribbean Pink for you."

I just do love this passage because it does bring to light two important things. 1. What matters in life is treating other people well and 2. Good deeds should be done not for collateral or recognition but out of love.

My Truths

So I have debated for awhile on whether or not to post this blog because i am worried that it will come across as a bit pretentious, but then I decided that is what a blog is about anyways. Therefore, I am going to just go ahead and post it.

I recently read an article that was sent to me from my friend, Danielle, regarding all the truths that the writer has learned in life. I decided to sit down over the course of a few weeks and write out “my truths.” The things that I have learned over the past 31 years and what shapes my reality. I thought it was worth posting for others to comment on (please please please comment) and because I would like to have it so that I can go back sometime and reflect. Since this internet thing is probably going to stick around for a minute, I would like to come back to this blog in twenty years and reflect on the fact that I had no idea what life was about when I was 31 or that maybe I wasn’t so far off.

This entry is going to be a little bit long but I have spent a lot of time reflecting and observing things about life... Some of these lessons I have picked up because of things that have occurred in my life and some I have learned vicariously through other people. And as you can also see, some of the lessons/truths I have posted are from other people... things that have resonated with me. So these are some of the things that I have learned so far in my life.

When in doubt, fake it til you make it

Some people are not to be in you life forever- Let them go.
Some people should be in your life for the long haul and will add a lot, teach you many things, and challenge you- Let them in.

It is not natural for everyone to be in your life forever. Some people are just meant to be in it for a short period of time... we learn lessons from them and move on. Unfortunately, Facebook does not agree with this concept.. at. all.

People will take you for granted especially if you let them, but never demand attention or affection.
However, do something everyday to remind those people that matter to you that you are awesome even if they never realize what you did.

“If you can’t be with the one you live, love the one you are with”

Don’t let anyone be careless with you heart and don’t be reckless with someone else’s

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” -Gandhi

Not only is it true that “this, too, will pass” but no matter what you are going through, someone else has probably gone through it too. This is evident by the fact that people relate so well to songs. No matter what you are going through, you can find a song that sums up exactly how you feel.

The people that seek attention from others in life usually have something to hide

Always know your crowd whether you are telling a story or deciding what is important to others.

Some people are delusional and live a lie. Stay away from these people because you can’t change them or change their reality.

We never apologize for laughing or smiling, but we feel bad for crying even though it is just an emotion. Cry with vigor and then get over it. We also apologize for negative emotions but these emotions shape us and challenge us to grow. Be negative when needed and then grow and move on.

You grow the most from the hardest times. Someday you will look back at the hard times and be thankful for the struggles.

The right person can come into your life at the wrong time and they are still the wrong person

“There are so many people to love in your life, why do you worry about one?” Ben Harper

In life and business, I feel it is vital to act as if you are replaceable. It makes sure that you remember that you have to “show up” everyday in your life and work for what matters.

I think one of the big keys to really loving somebody is to believe and act every day as if they could get on without you but remind them everyday why they wouldn’t want to be without you.

Try to remove righteousness and entitlement from your life. Many gigantic crimes have occurred in the name of righteousness and entitlement takes away all accountability and need for hard work.

“People with things have the lowest self-esteem. The prettiest people do the ugliest things” -Kanye West

People are not going to change, so don’t try to change them. All you can do is change the way you think about people.

There is beauty in imperfection and there is comfort in mediocrity.

Nobody gets it right the first time, so don’t beat yourself up. Reflect on your mistakes, learn from life, and hope you get it right the next time.

Don’t be a victim of paralyzing thoughts.

I think you can learn the most from people above 50 and below 5 years of age.

Don’t give the best you have for work and colleagues and save the rest for your loved ones.

Don’t only surround yourself by people that are just like you. Respect and learn from people that are different from you. Admire people for their differences. Don’t try to change them and don’t let them try to change you.

Bob Dylan and Dr. Seuss have a pretty legit grasp on life. So does Ronnie James Kirschling

Accept gifts from others, especially mothers, because a lot of time it means so much to them to give you something

Compliment. Criticize. Compliment. -Barbara Kirschling

"He's not that into you" is really a stupid concept It gives all the power of wooing to the male and since when do they know what they really want anyways. Seriously.

Sometimes life gets so overwhelming that you have to ask for help aka go to therapy. Or in the words of Greg Kirschling, "Sometimes you have so much problems to talk about, it is only right to pay someone to listen to you."

Always accept compliments, learn from criticisms and build a circle of people that give both.
Without compliments, you won’t remember your worth.
Without criticism, you won’t strive to improve and will become delusional.

What really matters about people is how they act when nobody else is watching.

You don't have to agree 100% with someone or something to learn from others. Always listen fully and completely to what someone is saying.

Never trust anyone that is always in a good mood. Stay away from anyone that is always in a bad mood

Play lots of games with people, ask silly questions, and give hugs every once and awhile. Kids do these three things everyday and they seem pretty happy.

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love"
-Neil Galmon

I found this quote today and just liked it a lot. That is all